Fit, Grit, and Time to Quit

Fit, Grit, and Time to Quit...the 3 stages of a marriage. Here's hoping you never get to third stage.

I was married for 27 years and checked all 3 of these boxes.

✔️There were 18 years where it was a Fit.
We were supporting each other and our lives and goals were in sync.

💪Then came the time of Grit.
A life changing hospitalization for me, a promotion into a demanding job for her. Kids getting older. We were living separate lives but hanging on.

🚫Then, sadly it was Time to Quit.
I didn't want to be a quitter especially when my identity was rooted in who I was as a father. As someone who was always there.

Years later, I am still working on not wanting to be a quitter, but as Susan David, Ph.D. writes

"There’s nothing admirable about working doggedly toward a goal that no longer matters to you, and there’s nothing shameful about reevaluating your path."

<here's her full article>

I've learned the hard way, and when it's time for you to Quit, you can find me and I will help you build a new life, strong and free after divorce.
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